Society has made it appear like marriages are essential and that a relationship has no meaning without a marriage. In the olden days, marriages were made almost compulsory so that no one could think of life living without getting married. Even our parents first care about society and norms, and they hardly think about the happiness of their own children.
If a child opposes the idea of marriage, they are tortured in all the ways to convince them to get married. They say that women can’t survive without marriage and that she needs a man to protect and be with for a lifetime. However, while some of it is true, not everything in this makes sense.
For example, a woman might crave a companion to spend her lifetime and to have the support of her partner. However, getting married is not a must if two people already love each other. Those who trust their partner, love them, and have no insecurities need not get married to prove their love to society or even themselves.
Those who have insecurities and often doubt their partner won’t see anything change even after marriage. Such people should not get married anyway. A person in itself is enough to take care of himself, but we all need companionship at some point in time. We all feel alone and wish we had someone we could love and call our partner. However, it is not necessary to get married to have the person for a lifetime. Marriage is just about a signature on the paper or a process of a few rituals. It should not be a compulsion to perform to get respect in society.
Marriage should not be the way with which your relationship gets validation. It should be an optional thing that couples can go through if they want. Those who feel secure in their relationship and love each other enough to sustain for a lifetime can be together without marriage. A relationship with no trust and love is bound to be broken even after getting married. Similarly, a relationship where two people feel fulfilled by the company of each other doesn’t need marriage, and the relationship will stay intact.
So marriage can be a nice idea if the couple wants to do it as an additional step, but it should not be compulsory. Also, marriage has been in existence for centuries, but it doesn’t mean it has worked well so far. In fact, when a thing becomes a compulsion and if the society doesn’t change its norms with time, it starts to decay its roots, and happiness only becomes an illusion.
Even in the olden days, marriages were harmful to women. Those days a woman had to depend on her husband for all the necessities since she had no job or duties to earn money. She was there to prepare food, raise kids, and care for her husband. In this case, when a husband left her wife, she became vulnerable because she had no source to earn money and was left poor and deprived of her children.
In modern times marriage has taken a new turn, and today these are devastating for men. In modern times, marriages are in favor of women more than men. The law has been made so that even a woman can be dependent on a man, and she doesn’t have to do any job. Also, after divorce, a woman receives regular money from her husband whether or not he can afford it.
In this case, some women get married only so they can live happily without having to earn anything. There are also women who get married only to divorce later and get a partition in their husband’s property.
Marriages have become even more horrible, and society still believes in the concept of marriage without which a relationship has no meaning.
Only a few are the marriages where a husband and wife stay for a lifetime and in love where they make a family and raise their children. However, just because a few marriages are successful doesn’t mean everyone has to get married. Those who can make a happy home after getting married can do so even without getting married. A few rituals and a sign on a paper don’t have to validate their relationship.
Society today needs to open their minds more to understand there is no need to get married to find companionship. This way, all the damage that happens because of getting married can be avoided, and an increment in the overall happiness of humans can be done.
This way, no man or woman will be able to take advantage of each other, and no law will destroy the lives of divorced people. Individuals will live in a relationship of their own will without fearing the law. Also, women are more independent now than ever; they are financially secure and serve in higher positions. This way, money doesn’t have to be the reason to stay with each other; instead, love would be why marriage is not necessary.